How to Bellydance for Your Man

So you’ve found somebody worthy of your dance and you’re about to make him the luckiest guy around… This is a great gift you are giving, and no matter what you do this will be a night he’ll always remember.

Planning:
o Choose music that is sensual and inspiring to you, and something that sets a romantic or intimate tone. Aim to dance for 3-5 minutes.
o Select a costume that makes you feel sexy and beautiful, and feels good to wear and dance in. Make sure that it is soft to his touch…velvet or silk fabrics are great for dances in the boudoir. Also, you might want to make sure that the costume is easy to remove.


Create an Atmosphere:
o Create an atmosphere that makes you feel sensual and empowered. You can light candles or dim the lights and place flowers or veils around the room, creating an intimate space.
o Make sure that you will be free if interruptions like cell phones or anything else that might disturb your ultimate one-on-one atmosphere.


Performing:
o The Veil is a great way to enter for a boudoir performance. It gives the illusion that you are taking something off and there are lots of seductive tricks that you can do wit it.
o You can wrap it around his neck to show your power, or tease him a little bit with it.
o Eye contact: This is how you keep your power. If you are not comfortable with eye contact yet and you need to look down, be sure to look at your beautiful hips and body and admire yourself as a goddess.

o If nerves set in…have back up moves to do if you forget and keep in mind, what a lucky man he is! Even just one move is enough for him.

o Don’t be afraid to get down on the floor or up on to the bed… you can shimmy in virtually any position.

Make sure that you end the performance on your terms. If he can’t keep his hands off of you, you can give him the playful “no no” finger, and play hard to get… this will make it more fun for everyone.

End the performance how YOU want to end it… however that may be!

Bellydancing Seductress

Being a professional bellydancer has given me the opportunity to travel throughout the Middle East. For a couple of years, I was employed at nightclubs with 3-month residencies, performing 6 nights a week and had the days free to explore the city and absorb the culture. Traveling to foreign cities by myself was exhilarating, educational and terrifying. I found it liberating to be in a location for a predetermined amount of time not knowing a soul and getting a fresh start 3 months later. Seeing the Middle East through the eyes of a blonde bellydancer was a fascinating experience. I was in ancient cities performing an ancient dance.

My most charming gig was in Istanbul, Turkey. By charming, I mean that I was the most charming I have ever been in my life. Something about the unique mix of Europe and Middle East culture, the weather, the hotel they set me up in and the gorgeous men brought out the seductress in me. Every thing I said was witty, I bellydanced like I was on fire and I had men falling at my feet, showering me with gifts. One of my admirers told me that I scared him – because there was no hope for him to resist me – he would give me anything I wanted. His fear was logical: in seduction, women hold all the cards.

Being a seductress is not about getting laid. That is easy. That is what men want. Being a good seductress knows this and does not fault a man for his focused desire. Instead, she is empowered by this knowledge because it is the woman who chooses. She delights in her feminine wiles and hones her skills to an art form to get what she wants.

While having a great body helps to attract a man, it is not a requirement in being a great seductress. It doesn’t matter what shape or size you are, or how much money you have, or what job you have. You can use these techniques even if you are already married to keep the spark alive between you and to keep feeling like a sensuous woman. Most women do not share these secrets with other women. Most books on the topic focus on candles, bedroom and other stuff that men could care a less about. They do not need these things to get in the mood. Being a seductress is claiming and enjoying the power you innately have as a woman.

A seductress oozes confidence – she loves herself, she enjoys herself, loves to laugh and these are things that make other people love her. Its about being so good at it that they do not even see the signs. Men do not want to think you do this to anyone else. Men want to think they are doing the seduction. A good seductress knows how to make a man feel like he’s seduced her.