Being a professional bellydancer has given me the opportunity to travel throughout the Middle East. For a couple of years, I was employed at nightclubs with 3-month residencies, performing 6 nights a week and had the days free to explore the city and absorb the culture. Traveling to foreign cities by myself was exhilarating, educational and terrifying. I found it liberating to be in a location for a predetermined amount of time not knowing a soul and getting a fresh start 3 months later. Seeing the Middle East through the eyes of a blonde bellydancer was a fascinating experience. I was in ancient cities performing an ancient dance.
My most charming gig was in Istanbul, Turkey. By charming, I mean that I was the most charming I have ever been in my life. Something about the unique mix of Europe and Middle East culture, the weather, the hotel they set me up in and the gorgeous men brought out the seductress in me. Every thing I said was witty, I bellydanced like I was on fire and I had men falling at my feet, showering me with gifts. One of my admirers told me that I scared him – because there was no hope for him to resist me – he would give me anything I wanted. His fear was logical: in seduction, women hold all the cards.
Being a seductress is not about getting laid. That is easy. That is what men want. Being a good seductress knows this and does not fault a man for his focused desire. Instead, she is empowered by this knowledge because it is the woman who chooses. She delights in her feminine wiles and hones her skills to an art form to get what she wants.
While having a great body helps to attract a man, it is not a requirement in being a great seductress. It doesn’t matter what shape or size you are, or how much money you have, or what job you have. You can use these techniques even if you are already married to keep the spark alive between you and to keep feeling like a sensuous woman. Most women do not share these secrets with other women. Most books on the topic focus on candles, bedroom and other stuff that men could care a less about. They do not need these things to get in the mood. Being a seductress is claiming and enjoying the power you innately have as a woman.
A seductress oozes confidence – she loves herself, she enjoys herself, loves to laugh and these are things that make other people love her. Its about being so good at it that they do not even see the signs. Men do not want to think you do this to anyone else. Men want to think they are doing the seduction. A good seductress knows how to make a man feel like he’s seduced her.
